Choose kindness.. we can make a difference

Good Thoughts

I often think that I am so lucky that social media wasn’t even a ‘thing’ when I was in school. Bullying and bitchiness between girls was bad enough without cyberbullying to add to the mix. We didn’t have mobile phones or text messages, let alone Facebook. For that I am truly thankful!

The NSPCC say that 4,500 children spoke to Childline about cyberbullying last year in the UK. However cyberbullying is not confined to just children and young people, far from it.

I follow a brilliant Facebook page called ‘The Unmumsy Mum’. I expect you have probably heard of The Unmumsy Mum, she’s a fantastic blogger. I just googled her link for this post and got a little distracted by reading her blog. Anyway, I’ve seen two posts to her Facebook page very recently which were just astounding. The first was Colley’s Wobbles post here where she describes the craziness that came from her posting what was in my opinion, a hilarious picture and story, on Facebook. It resulted in a lot of support yes, but also in her being called ‘the worst mother in the world’, amongst other things. Then, just the other day, I saw another Mum had posted this picture..


.. along with her reasons for posting the note onto the car of the lady who took the last parent and child parking space, who was shopping without her child. This has attracted thousands and thousands of comments, many of which were incredibly insulting to the original poster. The bit that stands out to me most is that she is the mother of a 3 week old baby, she surely has more than enough going on in her life without the wrath of the keyboard warriors.

I then came across this fantastic post over at A Beautiful Mess. Which says all that I mean to say. So, I’m going to quote Elsie…

It is incredibly comforting for me to realize that while I can’t control what others choose to do online, I can make a real difference by spreading kindness.

I want to live in a world where women work hard to help and encourage each other. Don’t you? We can do this together. We can make a real difference.

Here’s the call to action!

Be kind.
Let’s say the nice things we think. (You know, the ones we usually don’t take the time to type out.)

Your clicks matter.
Let’s say NO to clicking on negative articles and message boards (even/especially legit news sites!).

Stand up.
Next time we see someone being shamed, let’s leave a kind comment.

These are small, simple actions that we can take to choose kindness and create a healthier Internet.

Leave me a comment if you commit with me to practice these positive actions starting today!

So, let’s choose kindness. Let’s do it today.


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  1. thehollyhockdoor | 19th Aug 15

    I so agree! What a lovely post! Kindness costs nothing and yet is makes us all so much richer! Thanks for sharing on #wineandboobs

    • thesparklenest | 20th Aug 15

      Thank you :-) You’re very right! x

  2. MyTalesFromTheCrib | 19th Aug 15

    This is a really great post! Very powerful yet easy to do once you put your mind to it. I’ll have to check out the blogs you’re talking about too. We need to stop all of the mommy war madness! It’s ridiculous! I found you on #wineandboobs. Here’s mine!: Cheers!

    • thesparklenest | 20th Aug 15

      Thank you Colleen :-) x

  3. Christine Jaureguiberry | 20th Aug 15

    really lovely and inspirational post. Definitely something to think about when using the internet! Some people just think that they can post mean comments but they would never say it to someone’s face directly! What they forget is that it has exactly the same effect on other people! Treat others like you want to be treated by them… #wineandboobs

    • thesparklenest | 20th Aug 15

      Thanks Christine, it’s so simple isn’t it? Treat others like you would like to be treated.. so many people just don’t. Thank you for your kind words :-) x

  4. Natalie&jace (@123ToddlerAndMe) | 22nd Aug 15

    Love this post!! People think that sitting behind a computer/laptop/phone/ipad gives them a right to be horrible. i don’t understand it.. why would you want to bring someone down when you can lift them up? have a lovely day xx

    • thesparklenest | 24th Aug 15

      Thank you so much. Have a lovely day too! x

  5. Alison | 24th Aug 15

    I made a commitment two years ago to avoid what I call The Dark Side of social media. I changed my FB account so I was reading and sharing with immediate family only, which made a major difference to what was in my feed. Twitter and Instagram are pretty positive for the most part, so I guess I chose well when following someone. When it comes to children, I wonder how many parents are truly vigilant and prepared to enforce rules with regard to time spent online. My parents used to limit our television viewing, but perhaps your considered to be a bad parent today if your kids don’t have more or less free rein? I know you can’t stifle a child and its hard to control what happens away from home, but surely its both your right and responsibility as a parent to safeguard your child’s well being and make a point of knowing who and what they are interacting with. Super post Becky!


  6. thedadnetwork | 27th Aug 15

    Such a good message for sure! More people need to think like this. #bigfatlinky

    • thesparklenest | 30th Aug 15

      Thank you, I agree!

  7. Sadhna Grover | 8th Jan 16

    Nice post, shared on the twitter.
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    • thesparklenest | 9th Jan 16

      Thank you Sadhna :-)

  8. Kathryn | 8th Jan 16

    I loved this post! I wholeheartedly agree. I love your words and memes. Proud to share this!
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    • thesparklenest | 9th Jan 16

      Thank you Kathryn! :-)

  9. | 8th Jan 16

    This is a beautiful post! I so agree with you on everything! It’s the little things that make a difference, like leaving the mother child parking space for a mother with a child! I could list a million things that catch my attention that are like your example above… There’s a quote I quite love: Kindness costs nothing…sprinkle that shit everywhere! Sorry for the, it’s the quote! I really enjoyed this post, thank you!

    • thesparklenest | 9th Jan 16

      Thank you Katrin, I like your quote! x

  10. Michelle | 8th Jan 16

    I agree! Both articles you mentioned are perfect examples of how people take the internet to a whole new level of bullying and it’s disgraceful. I love you motto of not being responsible for other people’s actions but only being responsible for your re-actions. That’s exactly how I have lived my life for the past three years. I can only control how I react to something. Love this post!
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    • thesparklenest | 9th Jan 16

      Thanks Michelle, it is a good way to think, difficult to live by sometimes, but it’s important to try, I hope I can do it too!

  11. Carol@The Red Painted Cottage | 8th Jan 16

    It would be such a better world if everyone could show a bit of kindness. I just don’t get why some people choose to be so mean and nasty to other people, especially those they don’t even know. Great blog post.
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    • thesparklenest | 9th Jan 16

      Thank you Carol :-)

  12. Leanne@crestingthehill | 9th Jan 16

    It’s funny, I’m doing a post along these lines in the next week or so. It’s so important to choose your attitude and to always choose to be kind and gracious…..and keep the snark off social media – it’s just not worth the upset it can cause.
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    • thesparklenest | 9th Jan 16

      It really isn’t, there are so many better things anyone could do with their time than to be mean and negative on social media! I look forward to reading your post too :-)

  13. lynn | 9th Jan 16

    Absolutely perfect words that we should all remember every day. I do avoid all negative media…and people for that matter. It does impact me greatly. Thanks for this brilliant reminder.

    Have a great weekend.

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    • thesparklenest | 9th Jan 16

      Thank you Lynn, I agree negativity affects me more than it should too, I try to avoid it where I can! Have a great weekend too :-)

  14. sue | 9th Jan 16

    What goes around comes around I say and if we can’t show some kindness in this world – which really needs it – then that makes me sad.
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    • thesparklenest | 9th Jan 16

      Thank you Sue :-)

  15. Gina | 9th Jan 16

    I think that this is a fantastic post with a great message. I really agree that there’s just so much negativity and anger out there. It’s nice to kill some with kindness.
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    • thesparklenest | 9th Jan 16

      Thank you Gina :-)

  16. Charlotte | 9th Jan 16

    Really great and thoughtful post! kindness and positivity are great ways to improve as people and I completely agree about not having social media when I was in school – it wasn’t really a thing then and i’m so glad with all the negativity around. i can live in fairy land where the world is a great place :p
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    • thesparklenest | 9th Jan 16

      Hi Charlotte, I completely agree, I love living in fairy land! x

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