‘A river has a magnificent capacity to carve deep canyons, trickle over rocks, plunge over falls, and keep moving. The river goes where she is meant to, all the while honouring her honest purpose: to ease gracefully over and around the obstacles she encounters. The promise is that if she stays in flow, she will get to where she is going. When words fail us, brought on by deep pain through trauma and loss, our task is to find our way back to the river of our lives. Making allows for flow when the heart is tempted to shrink back, stagnate and wither. When there are no conversations to be had or no comfort is to be found, working with our hands is always available to us and can be a powerful way to help us move forward’
– Pixie Lighthouse, from the foreword to ‘Hope, Make, Heal’ by Maya Pagan Donefeld
When I started writing The Sparkle Nest, around 2 and a half years ago, it was about my family life. As time has gone on I’ve written less and less about my family, and more about things I’m making, things I’m learning, natural remedies, nourishing recipes (and a spot of retail therapy here and there!) Part of the reason for this is that, two years ago, my heart was broken and my world turned upside down so much, that the past two years have been a healing journey for me, one which I’m very much still on, and all of these things that I share on my blog are, in their own ways, part of that.
I recently spotted a book in a shop, which I just couldn’t leave on the shelf. It’s called ‘Hope, Make, Heal’ and is by Maya Pagan Donenfield. She was inspired to write it after a sudden and unexpected end to her marriage which, she says, ‘Threw her into a world of pain and confusion I had only read about in books and seen in movies’. The books is about using the hands to heal the heart through creativity and making.
It is full of projects to help you along the healing path; strength, calm, release and hope.
The project I was drawn to first were these ‘Lights for the end of the tunnel’. In the book, these are actually candles filled with wax, but I adapted it to just make tea light holders. What I found interesting while I was making these, was that I was making purely for the enjoyment of making. I wasn’t worried about perfection, just enjoying the feel of the clay on my hands and knowing that I was making something just for myself.
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It’s a cliche, but everything that happens does happen for a reason, be it an important lesson or an opportunity to grow. One of the things I have done this year is to be attuned (for the second time) to Reiki. My Reiki Master said something that stayed with me, which was, ‘How can you know how to heal others if you have not yourself been at the centre of fear and suffered loss and pain?’ One day I hope to get there, but for now I will continue on my healing journey. And I will enjoy working my way through this beautiful book!